I’m back! Two weeks in a row! Can’t really say that’s a Guinness Record or anything, but writing feels good and it feels right. Helps me stay sane in this crazy time of my life.
Let’s talk about the 5 stages of grief, of which I am going through, sporadically, and often. And I honestly think we, as humans, go through these stages all the time. We lose things a lot. Whether its that really awesome lipstick you left in the club bathroom, the job you had for 15 years, the neighbors you really liked, the boyfriend or wife that you truly loved… People go through loss all the time. Sometimes it seems like the littlest things shouldn’t bother us so much (yeah, I’ve been upset over lost lipstick), but there’s a reason we feel these things and have to see them through.
My favorite phase was the anger phase because it allowed me to be an artist and gave me some weird un-holy energy to listen to Pat Benatar and draw weird things on adobe illustrator. I was up until 2 in the morning watching movies and drinking wine and writing poems and painting and snap chatting everyone I know (sorry). (Not sorry). But as soon as that was over I launched straight back in to sadness.
The little fur ball we call Haley ran out of the house as soon as I got home. I was feeling sick after coming down from my Angry High and did not feel like chasing the cat all over Fairmount after biking 6 miles and dealing with loud children. I really just wanted to cry into a pillow and have a random Ukranian man massage my shoulders. But I had to find this damn cat. I walked up and down the block, made friends with the Verizon guy, chased her around cars, and then watched her slink back into this really nice, ritzy backyard. Ugh. I knocked on the resident’s door and explained that my cat had gotten in to her yard and she let me through the back door.
“I hope she’s not catching my fish.” This woman had a freaking pond in her backyard the size of my bedroom with coy that probably cost more than my laptop. Like my gosh woman. I hope my cat didn’t catch your fish either, I’m already broke as it is.
When it got dark, I came to the realization that she may be gone forever. And the stages of grief started all over again. She did end up coming back the next day, but man I was upset. I’ve been upset about everything to be fair, but I realized I don’t totally hate this cat that jumps onto the counter while I’m cooking, flops on my sketch book when I’m drawing, gets paint all over her nose and paws when I’m painting, sits on my hands when I’m typing, jumps in the sink and puts her tail in my face when I’m brushing my teeth….Yeah, she’s a pain in the ass. But she is cute, and I missed her. A lot.
Sometimes you don’t appreciate what you have until it’s gone. Though that’s not always the case, as the previous situation of loss was something I never wanted to give up, but I have a new appreciation for my diva feline friend. And the little things that make life good.